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Divorce and Alternate Endings

Friday, March 26, 2021 2:23 PM | Kristy Rhyason (Administrator)

If you are considering a separation or divorce or you've been through one, you might be on the lookout for resources. 

Divorce Magazine is published annually and is a guide to help those going through a divorce or separation with less dis-ease. They also hold a monthly Divorce Resource Group.

In the latest issue of Divorce Magazine, our own staff member Don Schapira wrote an article about Alternate Endings, which you can read below:

Alternative Endings - Which Will You Choose?

The concept of the alternate ending in Hollywood movies has always fascinated us. It suggests that a story we may have grown up with and loved could have had a completely different resolution, moral or emotional resonance. This reflects a human need to reflect on our own lives, stories, and possible mistakes. It helps us ponder what possible outcomes there could have been, had one scene in our own lives, been just a little bit different. 

For those old enough to remember, one of the most famous examples of the alternate ending was the movie ‘Clue’. This Tim Curry cult classic filmed three alternate endings, each with a different murderer, or murderers, and then made the unique decision to screen these different endings at different theatres. This resulted in an array of views, feelings and overall experiences for the same movie, depending on which ending was viewed. 

By the time the movie made its video release on Beta-max (yes, it’s THAT old), the producers had made the decision to compile all three endings onto the same release. Once you think the movie ends, a screen displays ‘That’s how it could have happened. But how about this?’ and then plays possible ending two, and then plays the final ending after flashing a ‘But here’s what really happened’ sign. For the first 80 minutes of a 95-minute movie, every aspect is the same. The same introduction, plot, jokes and conflict. It then delivers three very distinct, yet equally plausible, resolutions to the building conflict. 

While the original theatrical run of the movie was a disappointing sub-$15 million run, the video release created a beloved cult classic that stands the test of time. The video version of the movie still resonates with us vividly for how it reflects our own desires to have a redo, or alternate ending, at some point in our lives. 

We often look at our own relationships and consider these alternate endings, whether it be about a first date, a marriage, or even ultimately, a divorce. What if I had responded with A instead of B? What if they didn’t do C? While the ‘What if?’ can sometimes keep us up late into the night, the point of this line of thinking is for you to now consider your future alternate ending. 

If divorce can be a painful ending, it can otherwise offer a new beginning. If it can be high conflict, it can otherwise be amicable. If it can be expensive and time consuming, it can otherwise be affordable and timely. Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) services, especially mediation, offer these alternate endings to resolve your own situation – collaborative approaches that you can choose at the beginning of your journey, and then work your way forward to a better outcome – especially when there are children involved. 

Do your research, ask the right questions, and access the many ADR resources available to you. You can choose the resolution that will suit you better, and offer a better future. You won’t need any other ending to your story than the considered one you chose.

Be Sure to:

Questions to Ask When Hiring a Mediator or Arbitrator

  • Do you have a professional designation?

  • What is your training?

  • What is your experience in this area?

  • What style of ADR do you use?

  • Are you a member of a professional organization?

  • Do you follow a code of ethics?

  • What recourse do I have if I am unhappy with the service I receive? 

  • Do you carry professional liability insurance?

Divorce Symposium

Another thing you can do is connect to the Divorce Resource Group or attend the upcoming Divorce Symposium, hosted by Divorce Magazine:

Divorce is common, but every couple and family is unique.

It’s important for those considering a separation or divorce to know they’re not alone, so we’ve gathered professionals together for a day of education and support.

The Divorce Symposium will provide a full day of learning from professionals who will answer questions pertaining to family matters, legal issues, financial planning, as well as health topics.

This symposium is where people from all backgrounds learn about and discuss the variety of supports available to individuals and families facing one of the biggest life changes they will experience.

You can find more information about the Divorce Symposium on their website. You can also read the full issue of Divorce Magazine.

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